Question of Identity
My name is Amie, I am currently studying Media Production at college. I’m a 16-year-old bisexual trans girl and I wanted to write for Student Life because it gives me a voice to talk about things and share stories that I usually wouldn’t be able to do.
Today, I’m not going to tell my story, but one from a good friend of mine. He started to question his identity from a very young age. Since he was nine, he knew that he wasn’t a girl. For a while he settled on being a Demi-girl. But over time that seemed to fit less and less. During this time, school was getting extremely tough for him. All his friends were finding their labels and working out who they were, and he was still so unsure about everything. Anxiety and depression hit him very hard at this time and it wasn’t helped by the social pressure of his dad being a public figure. However, he managed to get through it all, with the help of friends online and sheer determination. For a while the label of non-binary seemed to work, but once again it wasn’t quite right. However, the social pressure of having to keep coming out and the feeling that people were sick of him changing his identity stopped him from finding his true self. Despite this, today he happily identifies as a trans man and he is proud of it.
If you ever feel like you’re questioning your identity too much or feel like people are getting tired of it, then please remember this story, remember that it doesn’t matter what most people think. The people who really matter won’t make a fuss and will accept you for who you are.