Hey everyone! The last couple of months have been filled with pride, love and happiness. As you’ll see in a couple of pages time, me and my partner Tshequa went to London Pride in July, and it was honestly majestic. I won’t spoil the surprise though! Read all about it on page 74. This article is, as always, dedicated to pushing that acceptance and love even further. If you’ve got anything to suggest, just email firstname.lastname@example.org
Do you think we’re born this way?
Honestly, in my opinion, I think that being gay, bisexual, or fitting anywhere else into the LGBT spectrum, comes from your experiences in life. You discover who you are through life and seeing your likes and dislikes as you grow older. I have a friend who is lesbian, and she has told me before that it took her a couple of boyfriends to realise that boys were just not for her. I think sexuality is fluid! I don’t believe in predestination in any sense of the word, and this stretches to sexuality too. Someone can change their feelings, feel like they only want to date the opposite gender, then feel like they want to date all genders, or nobody, or only the same gender, and it’s completely fluid.
I want to come out, but I’m worried by how people will react…
Coming out can be a scary thing. The idea of telling people about any big part of your life is obviously daunting, but it will be so much easier by just remembering one thing. It’s your life. You’re in control, it’s hard to put this into practise but you need to remember how far you’ve come to have the courage to come out to start with! Even if someone reacts badly, give them time and I’m sure they’ll come to their senses. I’m very lucky in that everyone I’ve told is totally at ease with my sexuality. My parents still love me the same, as do my grandparents, and all my friends. It’s beautiful. If anybody is against how you live your life, you don’t need their negativity in your life! If you tell them how you really feel and they don’t accept you, they were never a good friend in the first place.
I hope these have helped and I’ll see you next month!